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⏪(recap) SYSTEM 1: ⚡️FAST thinking, intuitiv

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SYSTEM 1: ⚡️FAST thinking, intuitive emotional reactions that allow us to categorise and characterise others’ behaviours through our past interactions with them

SYSTEM 2: 🐌 SLOW thinking to analyse, rationalise and correct our SYSTEM 1 reactions

SYSTEM 1 is responsible for a lot of conflict 💥 and misunderstandings with our loved ones, friends and even strangers.

It can be tiring to constantly evaluate your emotions before outwardly reacting, but it’ll be worth it in the long run 👍

Here are a few steps to kick-start your SYSTEM 2:
1. Awareness. 🤔 Always be aware that your first reaction to things has a deeper reasoning.
2. Slow down! 🙌🏻 Think before you react, and take the time to understand your SYSTEM 1.
3. Engage in mindfulness activities 🌸 to build a habit of engaging in SYSTEM 2.

Don’t know where to start? Try these out:
- meditate 😌
- write in a daily journal ✏️
- run 🏃🏻‍♂️
- listen to useful podcasts 🎧
- take 10 minutes before you sleep to recap events of the day 💭

Experiment and find what works for you!

Build a habit, and before you know it, you’ll be engaging in SYSTEM 2 as easily as SYSTEM 1 😉

Look forward to deeper and more positive interactions with everyone around you!

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How are you determining your happiness? Find our

How are you determining your happiness?

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Quick to snap? 🤬 Ever spoke harshly when your b

Quick to snap? 🤬 Ever spoke harshly when your buttons were pushed - said words that you later regretted? 😓

We naturally react thoughtlessly, especially when we’re emotional or busy with other tasks.

(Remember that time you snapped at your partner when they asked for your help with dinner while you were reading an interesting article on Facebook?)

By default, our brains 🧠 run on auto-pilot to process the multitude of stimuli in our daily lives.

(Such as crossing roads safely 🚦, looking for your friend in a crowd 👀, and recognising when a drunkard is gonna punch you in the face 👊)

Daniel Kahneman defines this as SYSTEM 1. It is responsible for quickly ‘Categorising’ and ‘Characterising’ interactions so we can function socially with minimal effort.

SYSTEM 2 is slower, more rational and takes more effort. This is the stage where we ‘Correct’ initial misunderstandings or negative irrational reactions.

SYSTEM 2 is what makes us human – our ability to rationalise, empathise and interact positively with each other despite conflicts ❣️

Whenever you get irritated or upset, take a pause 🙌🏻 and engage in SYSTEM 2 thinking to make sure you don’t say harsh things that you’ll later regret!

Look out for our next post on actively engaging your SYSTEM 2 to reduce miscommunications and fights with your loved ones.

If this is something you’re urgently in need of understanding, check out our blogposts below:
🔨‘The Joy of Breaking or Fixing Things’
🤔‘Understanding Resilience: Origin, Techniques and Possibilities’ on the 3Ds – Distancing, Distracting and Disputing
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🏠Home is comfort. Home is security. Home is whe

🏠Home is comfort. Home is security. Home is where our sense of belonging is fulfilled. But for some, home can be dysfunctional and terrifying.

What happens when home creates traumas instead of rosy memories?

In this episode of the Screwed Up Moments podcast, we explore this perspective of home with the story of Jessica Goh, someone whose experience was far more complicated than what your basic internet platitude would suggest.

The Screwed Up Moments podcast is hosted and produced by Danny Koordi (@fablproductions)

The latest episode of the podcast will be out on Sunday 🔥

Check it out and previous eps through the link in our bio ~

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What are you doing today? To find out more about

What are you doing today?

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Have you ever heard your friends ask, “Why do I

Have you ever heard your friends ask, “Why do I keep meeting the same kind of guy (or girl)?” 🥺

Well, there has been a long-standing theory around the attachment style in our close relationships 💕

Attachment theory was first formulated by psychologists Mary Ainsworth and John Bowlby in the 1950s when they studied children. It was later extended to adults.

Statements such as, “I am comfortable depending on others and having others depend on me,” suggest a SECURE attachment. 🤝 We have a positive view of ourselves 👍 and of others 👍

When we have a negative view of ourselves 👎 and a positive view of others 👍, we develop an ANXIOUS attachment. 😣 Often, characterised by such a statement, “I am worried that others don’t value me as much as I value them.”

When we have a negative view of others, it can lead us to develop an AVOIDANT attachment 👀

This can be subdivided into two branches, depending on the view towards ourselves.

Having a negative view towards others 👎 and a positive view towards ourselves 👍 can lead us to develop a DISMISSIVE-AVOIDANT attachment. 🙃 We are likely to think, “I am comfortable to be alone or I don’t need to depend on others.”

On the other hand, a negative view towards others 👎 and also ourselves 👎 can lead to a FEARFUL-AVOIDANT attachment. 😶 “I can’t trust others or I don’t want to be hurt by others,” are statements characterising this style.

The key to building a constructive relationship is to develop positive views towards ourselves and others. 👍👍 For some of us, due to our past experiences, it may take more effort than others.

But, change is possible. 🙌🏻 For a start, we need to identify our attachment style and how our views of self and others are shaping our relationships. With greater awareness, change can follow 😊

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